Finding Meaning in the Mundane
Parenting is a holy work. Marriage is a sacred calling. But let’s be honest—most days, neither feels particularly divine. Most days, we are wading through laundry piles, wiping sticky faces, refereeing sibling squabbles, and squeezing in whispered conversations with our spouses between bedtime routines and the demands of life. It is easy to wonder, Does this really matter? Does anyone see?
I see you. More importantly, God sees you.
I’m Kia Gutierrez, a marriage and family therapist, a mother, a wife, and an everyday warrior in the battle for emotional connection in the family. My own marriage, parenting journey, and professional work have shown me that while the challenges we face today are not new, they are ours to fight. And we do not need to fight alone.
Families have always struggled to communicate, to connect, and to love one another well. Since the beginning of time, misunderstandings, unmet expectations, and unspoken wounds have threatened to divide us. But the beautiful, hope-filled truth is this: The small, daily acts of love we pour into our families have the power to change the world.
When we show up for our children in the mundane—reading one more bedtime story, packing lunches, listening to their endless questions—we are doing holy work. When we choose to lean toward our spouse instead of away, even after a long and exhausting day, we are building something sacred. The world may not celebrate these moments, but they are the foundation upon which the next generation stands.
I started this space because my own work-life balance requires me to keep a small caseload as a marriage and family therapist. But the challenges we face in marriage and parenting shouldn’t be confined to those who have the capacity for therapy. In this space, I want to share insights from the struggles and victories of families just like yours and offer encouragement—because I once learned that vision is like a cup with a hole in the bottom; it leaks. And family isn’t meant to be done alone. If we don’t make it to the therapy room together, I hope this space can be a place where you find encouragement and a refill for your vision cup.
My hope is that through this space, you will feel supported in your marriage and parenting. That you will be reminded that your unseen efforts are never wasted. And that you will find insight—not from an expert above you, but from someone walking alongside you.
So, welcome. You are doing the most important work there is. And together, we will press on, embracing the sacred in the small things, knowing that love—however imperfect—has the power to transform the world.
- Kia Gutierrez
