Conflict is a sign your marriage is ready for care and growth.
Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in Olympia, WA
Feeling stuck in repeated arguments, emotional distance, or constant stress?
You’re not failing—your relationship is ready for the next step.
Do your fights feel bigger than the issue?
“We keep fighting about the same things.”
“One of us shuts down while the other pushes harder.”
“We love each other, but something feels off.”
This isn’t because you’re incompatible.
It’s a response to stress, trauma, or anxiety affecting how you communicate.
Many couples find themselves saying:
This isn’t about trying harder—it’s about feeling safe again
When anxiety, depression, or past trauma is involved, your nervous system often reacts before words land.
That’s why:
Small disagreements escalate quickly
Conversations go in circles
Both partners leave feeling unheard or exhausted
Trauma Informed Couples Therapy addresses what’s happening beneath the conflict
Rather than focusing only on arguments, I help couples:
Build emotional safety before problem-solving
Understand stress and trauma responses in real time
Stay regulated during hard conversations
Reconnect without forcing vulnerability
There is a way forward.
This approach works especially well for couples who are:
High-achieving, responsible, and driven
Public servants, first responders, military, educators, or healthcare workers
Feeling disconnected, reactive, or exhausted at home
Wanting help without blame or taking sides
You don’t need more effort—you need the right kind of support.
You don’t have to decide everything today
You don’t need to:
Know if therapy will “fix” your marriage
Commit to long-term counseling
Have the right words ready
